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The Gods must have been sleeping.

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Murugan, the 47-year old bachelor from Nagarcoil, Tamil Nadu did not know he would die in a few days when he came to Kerala as a refugee daily wage laborer. This man came to Kottiyam in Kollam and was residing there since the last few days. He worked as a milkman.

According to the staff of the ambulance that carried Murugan from hospital to hospital seeking treatment, Murugan traveled 120 kilometers and experienced 8 longest and most painful hours of his life before succumbing to injuries. Murugan was riding pillion on a bike with his friend at 10 PM when a car hit them. The city policemen took them to the first hospital where Murugan’s friend was admitted and Murugan was diagnosed with brain haemorrhage and advised to visit a better hospital. Thereafter, “Life Save Emergency Ambulance Service” took him to four other hospitals in Kollam and Thiruvananthapuram where he was denied treatment citing various reasons such as absence of a ventilator or a neurosurgeon or a bystander. And, Murugan died at 6:30 AM.

My prime motive for putting this thing on my blog is, what is the first thing that comes to your mind after having read the above paragraphs? Well, the first thing that came to my mind was, what wrong did Murugan do that his fate offered him such a terrible goodbye? What was God doing all this time? The most important question, *DOES GOD EXIST AT ALL?*

After witnessing such happenings, my answer to the last question would be no. Humans dying out of human negligence. Seriously? The humanity that, we, the “so-called” humans talk about, where has it gone? Are we so selfish and inhumane to let our counterpart die? I, myself, am a believer of God. But such things make me think otherwise. Such things make me cringe.

The Gods WERE sleeping. Had They been awake, even Murugan would have been awake. But, why am I blaming the God? They say, the God resides in each one of us. Is this how we showcase the God inside us? One amongst us lets another one amongst us die citing silly reasons.

My reader, the purpose of this blog is to ignite or nourish the humaneness in you. Don’t lose the humanity we have inside us. That is what makes us HUMANS. Don’t let the ego or the selfishness inside us destroy the human inside us. If our counterpart is in need of help, we should try and help him/her in the best possible way. Just like the driver of the ambulance that carried Murugan to every hospital, sacrificed his night’s sleep, we can also do something for the needy people out there, provided, we are willing.

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Things I See Happy People Do (Secrets to happiness)

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First epiphany upon entering the world of Social Media; people are unhappy and there are a lot of them. I have listed out things happy people do below.  Now don’t get me wrong, we all know some people who wouldn’t be happy, were they not unhappy but I am not talking about them.  We will just let them be.  I am also not thinking theologically here (i.e. juxtaposing happiness and joy).

I always try this trick on people.- Ask a person Is he Happy? First he would say Yes! Ask again, really are you Happy? then he would start questioning his happiness. But when you ask an unhappy person is he unhappy, he would agree totally. Humans tend to question positive things and agree on negatives. So when ever you have doubt think their is something positive in it.

I think most people want to be happy; they are just not quite sure how to get there from their present location.  Many people honestly believe that happiness is a lucky bounce; a sunny disposition or favorable circumstances but I disagree.  Happiness is a choice.  I believe the best route to happiness is found by following the footsteps of those who have already arrived. For me it has been looking into myself and point what disappoints me and where it comes from. For now lets look into people who are happy and what are their practices.

1. Focusing on what you have and not on what you don’t 

Unhappy people are unthankful people. The practice of counting your blessings is a great start.  Get out a legal pad and write down all the good things in your life.  Often unhappiness sneaks in when we lose sight of all the good things in our life and become focused on one or two difficult things.

2. Question the sources of your expectations

Most I have seen many people continuously thinking about things they want to happen. Its important to realise not everything is on our hand and accepting that is bliss. But being happy is a choice. Unhappy people want things they don’t have…and they want them bad. Are these expectations realistic?  Who is selling them to you?  I hope not the media.

3. Be Generous , Be helpful

Study after study has come to the same conclusion. Selfish people are miserable.  Happy people give of their time and resources to a cause greater than themselves. As said improving state of mind is the best service to human kind.

4. To see the world where there are greater and bigger problems.

When you look at the world. Then, your problems will appear smaller. The moment your problems appear smaller, you will get the energy and confidence to deal with it or solve it. In simple words, serve those who are in greater need.

5. Remember happiness is not a destination 

The happiest people I know are those least conscious of their own happiness. Happiness is learning to enjoy the ride, not reaching your destination. Happiness doesnt come from success, but success does come with happiness.

6. If you don’t like your life, change it 

Take control of your own life. Do want to learn to play the piano?  Take lessons!  Do you regret not getting a college degree?  Get one.  Do you want to improve your spiritual life?  Start meditating and going to satsangs.  There is really no one holding you back but you.

7. Slow down, Take a breath

You just can’t smell the roses at a full sprint! If you, like me, are a workaholic type, build time into your Outlook to do nothing. Give enough time to adore the nature. Looking at the existence and wondering for it.  Get a hobby.  Enjoy your friends and family.  Happy people have learned how to occasionally chill.

8. Realize there are no shortcuts 

If you were honestly disappointed you didn’t win the billion dollar Power Ball, you are not getting it. Getting your education, working hard, putting in the hours, pursuing your dreams, saving and giving are always in style. I have seen people who get things easily from family are not too proud or satisfied with their life. The feeling of success is not seen in them though seating in nice fancy cars and house.

9. Think significance 

Significance is achieved by leaving the world better than you found it. People who feel their lives really matter are the happiest people of all! And it does matter you maybe a small part of this whole universe but having human life is much more intense. You may not be Superman but being Human is super.

10. Forgive 

Forgiving those who have hurt you, breaks their power over you.  Forgiving yourself for your failures, frees you for future success.  Ask those you have hurt to forgive you.  Make restitution where you can.  Move on.

11. A great attitude is a choice, not a disposition 

We can control our feelings or we can be controlled by them.  Happy people CHOOSE to have great attitudes.

12. Speak life 

When you speak, choose words that uplift, encourage and bring positive energy into every situation.  As someone said, “If you don’t have something nice to say, you shouldn’t say anything at all.”  People who speak life are like human air fresheners.

 

Look at your own life. In the past, you had many problems. They have all come and gone. Know that even this will go and you do have the energy and power to overcome it. You will get self-confidence by understanding and looking at your own past.

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